Sitting alone at this coffee shop with a flag which invites any stranger to talk/share a coffee/share a table with you. This very young girl walks upto me and asks if she can share the table with me. The typical me hesitated and thought for a couple of seconds and behaved like a complete indian and said "ummmm no im expecting someone" even when i wasnt. Obviously cos i was wanted my space and all that. The pushy young girl said " il get up when that someone arrives". The typical me couldnt argue back and i allowed her to sit on the table.
This young tattooed girl was shy but was going out of her comfort zone and trying to talk to me. The typical me was acing my fake laughs and cutting the topic and reading my book.Then the young girl out of nowhere said " i am tired of all this shit". Everything is changing.Oops i mean everything has changed.The typical me out of courtesy asked her " like what?". Her reply to that was:
This young tattooed girl was shy but was going out of her comfort zone and trying to talk to me. The typical me was acing my fake laughs and cutting the topic and reading my book.Then the young girl out of nowhere said " i am tired of all this shit". Everything is changing.Oops i mean everything has changed.The typical me out of courtesy asked her " like what?". Her reply to that was:
- My best friends have other best friends
- Friends conveniently forget to invite me nowadays
- The priority of my friends is changing
- A couple of my friends came out to me
- My friends dont bother about me anymore
- My friends take me for granted
- My best friend goes out of her way to meet her "new friend" but always has crap reasons as to why she cant meet me
- I have had bad break-ups
- My friends............
The typical me interrupted and said "basically Your life = friends ? Your problems = friends ? Your life is shit cos of friends?"."What about your family ? what about work? Doesnt any of that make you happy?"
She dropped her head in embarrassment. The typical me had done something which was not very typical of me.Id never tell a stranger upfront that " Get a life.Life isnt only about friends. Its way beyond that"?But to my surprise i told the young girl what i felt to her face.
The girl had her reasons to be like this but the typical me had already judged her.My judgments were totally wrong after i patiently heard her story.All of a sudden this girl who i felt was a complete looser dint seem so boring to me. While pouring her heart out to me she simultaneously was realizing where she was going wrong.The awesome part was she was ready to work on herself. She was ready to give it another chance.She was ready to start fresh.She was ready to accept the change.
Made me realize is moving on the solution ? NO .Moving on is never the solution. The solution is to stop cribbing and accept the change.Moving on is a forced temporary solution which will fuck your head when you are having one of those low days where u wanna kill any and everyone who talks or gives a suggestion. Accepting the change will make u happy.
The young interesting girl told me things id never tell a stranger.While telling me all the secrets i could see a sigh of relief in her eyes.Pouring her heart out even to a stranger made her realize so many things.It made her happy cos it was out of the system.The Typical me would never do this.
Ended my evening with a long hug with the interesting girl. Im never going to meet her again. But my few lines got her thinking and she found a solution to her so called shit life. On the contrary just listening to her patiently i realised so many things myself. The typical me would have said dont worry you'lbe fine but i dint cos Its time to break out of THE TYPICAL ME.Its time to go with the flow and do what your heat says versus doing "the typical me" things. Its time to break out of the predictable typical me. Its time to do what YOU feel is right versus what is right and what is wrong.Everything is Black or White.There is no Grey.Its time to do what you want and not think what the other person will think of you.Its time to set your priorities straight.
Dedicating this blog to the Interesting Stranger.
